We have all had that specific lady within our lives. You realize the 1 together with the sweet character, the seriously nice hair and a great encounter.
She dates the a lot more “adept” guys but how could you get her to like you?
Though males are largely attracted to females determined by their seems, a woman finds a man appealing as a consequence of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who’s confident in himself and not afraid to take the result in get what he wishes from life.
Ironically, what this implies is the fact that the top way for any lady to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.
That is for the reason that to obtain a girl to like you, you’ll want to come from a mindset of higher worth. Never come from a position of neediness.
So the most effective attitudes to possess towards any one particular distinct lady are:
one. Nonchalance.
2. Non-attachment to regardless of whether she likes you or not. (By that I imply, if she likes you that’s amazing, but if not, you can find plenty of other chicks on the market that are equally as excellent as she is.)
The bottom line is always that a lady must by no means be a challenge for you. Alternatively you ought to be a challenge for her.
As well as putting a higher value on yourself, you could also do away with neediness by setting up up your social network. Make friends with as lots of girls when you can. (Girls are easy to make buddies with.)
Also date as a lot of ladies when you can don’t restrict by yourself to dating only “that a single particular girl.”
You see, the final issue you ever want to have going via your mind when you are close to that unique woman is, “God, I Need to have this lady! She’s irreplaceable!” Owning an abundance of girls inside your life will solve that difficulty.
Also, every time a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she also feels attraction. Psychologically, that is identified since the “social proof” phenomenon and it really is considerably extra potent in ladies than men.
Ever noticed how your female associates drool over the guy with the corner of your bar who’s got 4 babes at his table? That is social evidence in action.
From the way, it is fine to consider a lady is lovely and to have potent feelings for her.
Here’s the key though you should generally remind oneself that there are lots of other women around who’re just as wonderful as she is.
In the event you begin considering that any lady is certainly one of a variety, then that gives her power above you, and, ironically, can make her shed attraction to you.
So, you are cost-free to think that a woman’s awesome. Just bear in mind that a number of other ladies are astounding too. That way you will not come to be needy.
So don’t forget, location a substantial value on by yourself, make her earn your focus, and hang out with as a lot of ladies as you can people are the 3 tricks for the way to get a woman to like you.
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A man who loves social life and curious about every new progress, new development to make sure he is in the era and always have all up date information. He likes to know what is the latest trend of fashion and make sure he is not out of style. You can easily spot him at the grand opening of new pub, new restaurant for he loves to participate in social activity.
There is a few Sagittarius who is a private person as well, but you could see that he will be ahead of his friends. He will know what is the bestseller book, what are the top 10 hot hit of the week. The hottest movies showing now, he must have already seen it.
He hates routine, it makes him bored. He likes to get to his goals and succeeding in doing so is his true reward. Moneymaking is O.K. but it is not his true joy, for he can easily spent them in a short while. They say if you want the truth, go and ask Sagittarius. They are right, you can ask him and he will tell you all the truth and very straight forward. Even he may speak bluntly, his friends loves him. If you have problems, all your friends may feel sorry for you, but Sagittarius will be the one who will give you a helping hand first and even expect no return favor. That’s why he is a real charmer even sometimes-big mouth.
When he is mad, he can be quite fierce but quickly dissolve and easily forgotten. He is not a person who will take revenge, so if he say he going to burn down your house, you can relax. He likes compliments and sweet words, so you can manipulate him easily. If he knows you are not sincere, you will totally become meaningless to him.
Some Sagittarius is gifted musician, or singer. He is a happy soul, has a good humor and has lots of jokes. He loves freedom, lively and very energetic. If he is working, he will take his job seriously. He likes to travel, likes to see new exciting places. Going out or traveling make him happy.
Sagittarius man is like a free bird. He lives as if everyday is Sunday. He will hardly be in a bad mood, but if he is in a bad mood, you will better leave his sight. If you want to talk to him in such mood, try to avoid issue of commenting his life. He flirts like other man, but he has a built in brake, so he will come back to you by himself. If he disappear for a few days, not to worry for he is only recharging his battery to be that same lively person again, them he will be back.
He has allergies to Pretty woman, so in love with many women for him would be normal. Setting dating schedule is his games and it’s fun for him, and this will keep him from being bored. He hates obligations, so the word “marriage” would suffocate him. If you allow him to have freedom, he will not go anywhere.
He falls in love as easy as he catches cold, especially if she is cute, funny and she has a strong personality. No one can tell how long he will be in love each time. If you want to really hold Sagittarius man, act like you are in an adventure movie. At all time, you should make yourself lively, tells him some jokes, always be cute so that it will ease up his allergy to other pretty woman a bit.
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Basically i dont know what is going on with my head but i get annoyed with my boyfriend a lot before i go to lesson he kisses me and hugs me but when i say bye he wants more when i have already said bye and i get annoyed and then he says why did you leave me with my hands in the air. When i had already said bye to him and just wanted to go to my lesson. Also if i am with him and i start talking to a friend and then i go back to him and talk to him he gets annoyed when i am talking to him its like he hates me talking to anyone but him its so annoying its like i have friends aswell and he is so possessive he just wants me to himself all the time i know its because he loves me but it is a bit overwhelming. I know a relationship involves two people but he needs to accept the fact that i have other people in my life aswell not just him. Ideas anyone im really angry right now/:
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Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. offers a nice interview (at Huffington Post) with Susan Kaiser Greenland, author of the forthcoming The Mindful Child: How to Help Your Kid Manage Stress and Become Happier, Kinder, and More Compassionate, and owner of the website Mindfulnesstogether.com, on mindfulness meditation and children.
If more parents could teach their kids these kinds of techniques, we would have less violence and more compassion in the world. Unfortunately, these practices are only likely to be picked up by already liberal families who middle class or higher.
Where we really need this kind of education is the inner cities, in poor rural areas, and anywhere else that compassion is in short supply.
MINDFULNESS MEDITATION AND CHILDREN: AN INTERVIEW WITH SUSAN KAISER GREENLAND
Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.
Psychologist in LA, Co-author: A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook
Today I have the honor of interviewing Susan Kaiser Greenland, who had the courage to leave a well-paying law career to embrace a calling to teach mindfulness meditation to children as young as four years old. She is author of the upcoming book The Mindful Child: How to Help Your Kid Manage Stress and Become Happier, Kinder, and More Compassionate, developed the website Mindfulnesstogether.com and the Inner Kids program, designed to teach young kids vital skills toward a more peaceful and compassionate world.
ELISHA: Susan, what an amazing path you’ve chosen. When I teach mindfulness to adults, I often hear, how come we didn’t get this education when we were little, the world would be a much better place. What inspired you to leave the golden handcuffs and venture into this sorely needed area?
SUSAN: Thanks, Elisha. I’m not so sure I choose the path; often it feels more as if it chose me. I practiced meditation myself and saw how it helped me, so it was only natural to wonder if it could help my children too. But the inspiration to begin looking in earnest for ways to practice with my children (who were quite young at the time) came when I was on a week-long meditation retreat with Ken McLeod. I had studied with Ken for a few years before this retreat and was friends with many of his students.
Looking around the meditation hall one evening, I noticed that many of us were parents and was struck by the fact that none of us were talking about bringing mindfulness to our kids. Something happened during that retreat and I felt a shift - a desire to integrate mindfulness into my family life in a more direct way. It’s not uncommon for me to leave a retreat thinking that I’ve had some major insight — so after having one of these a-ha moments after meditation I wait a week or so before acting on it. If after a week I still feel that way I try to do something about it. A week after I got home from Ken’s retreat that year — now over a decade ago — I knew this practicing mindfulness with kids was something I wanted to do (or maybe needed to do. Although I had no idea that it would eventually lead me away from my law practice — which I also enjoyed.
ELISHA: Can you give us a brief synopsis of some of the vital skills you teach these children?
SUSAN: The Inner Kids program has evolved over the years and now my primary objective is to teach kids a more mindful worldview. In classical training, that worldview comes through the development of three qualities simultaneously: awareness, wisdom, and values. My work is secular, yet informed by classical models, and those three qualities (awareness, wisdom and values) can be translated beautifully as attention, balance and compassion, what I like to think of as the New ABCs of learning. By learning these new ABCs, kids, teens, and their families can develop a more mindful worldview by:
* Approaching new experiences with curiosity and an open mind;
* Developing strong and stable attention;
* Seeing life experience clearly without an emotional charge;
* Developing compassionate action and relationships;
* Building communities with kindness and compassion;
* Working together to make a difference in the world;
* Expression gratitude; and
* Planting seeds of peace by nurturing common ground.
ELISHA: While the instructions in mindfulness practice can be simple, the practice itself can be anything but easy at times. What happens when children throw tantrums or when they are bullied? How do you approach this practice during the difficult moments?
SUSAN: It’s crucial that adults working with kids understand that this is a process-oriented practice (as opposed to a goal oriented practice) and the aim of the process is transformation. It is not at all uncommon for kids to have a hard time when they begin to look at their inner and outer experiences clearly without an emotional charge (or with less of one). Sometimes it’s tough for kids, teens, and even adults to process what they see through introspection and it may be impossible for them to contextualize or understand their insights on their own. It’s important to have patience with kids and simply see them clearly, and love them, for who they are — even when they are not on their best behavior — and trust that navigating this less than perfect behavior is a necessary part of the transformation that mindfulness and meditation can bring about.
ELISHA: Can you share a practice that parents, caregivers, or teachers may be able to take into their lives with their kids?
SUSAN: I think helping kids find a physically comfortable posture from which to practice meditation is very important. Encouraging kids to lie down while practicing breath awareness is quite useful but also is an activity that I use called the Pendulum Swing (or tic-toc with younger children.) The aim of this activity is to help those who find it hard to be still (either sitting or lying down) to meditate in a group. Here’s how it goes… Go read the rest of the article to see a cool exercise you can do with (your) kids to teach them mindfulness meditation.
~ Adapted from a publication on Mindfulness and Psychotherapy at Psychcentral.com. Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is Co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, and the Mindful Solutions CD Series dealing with stress, anxiety, depression, addiction, ADHD and Success at Work. Visit his blog, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy at Psychcentral.com. You may also find him at www.drsgoldstein.com.
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First dates can be a scary experience or they can be a great deal of fun if you consider some important first date tips and take them to heart. Attraction to another person all boils down to chemistry, so if you have already met and find the person somewhat attractive, you have taken the first step toward building a relationship. It is crucial to equip yourself with first date tips
Now, it is important to get to know enough about them to know whether you have the same moral standards, the same level of ambition, and whether your life plans have you headed in the same direction. This will help you decide whether or not you want to head there together.
FIRST DATE TIPS: DO’S
1. Do be on time. The last thing you want to do is make a bad impression on your date by being late. Tardiness implies that you don’t care. Even worse, the person you’re meeting may not hang around to wait for you to turn up.
2. Do laugh at their jokes. Even if you’ve heard the joke 100 times or more (or it just isn’t funny at all), laughing along with your date will communicate that you are interested in them.
3. Do keep the conversation alive. That dreaded silence, during which you’re both scrambling to come up with something — anything — to say, can seem to last for eternity and will make both of you think the other person is boring. Jot down a few questions ahead of time. Practicing for the date can make all the difference.
4. Do take an interest in your date. Listen when he or she is talking. Be interested in what they have to say, and show how interested you are by asking questions about what they like to do, read, eat for dinner, etc.
5. Do go somewhere unique. First dates don’t have to be to the movies or to a restaurant for a nice meal. You will make a longer, lasting impression if you get creative.
6. Do be confident. Confidence says a lot about a person. Being more confident will help you get through that first date with ease and let your partner know you’re comfortable with who you are.
7. Do be yourself. You won’t fool anyone by pretending to be someone you’re not. Also, if you’re planning to continue seeing this person, the real you will come out eventually, so you might as well start off by introducing them to who you really are, flaws and all.
8. Do stay safe. Take your cell phone with you, plan to drive yourself and let a friend know where you’re going, who you’ll be with and when you’ll be back. This is a crucial first date tip.
FIRST DATE TIPS: DON’TS
1. Don’t be late. First impressions count, and if you’re late, this will make your date think you’re lazy and didn’t care enough to plan ahead.
2. Don’t talk about yourself all night. There is nothing worse then a person that loves to talk about herself all the time. How vain can you get?
3. Don’t talk about past relationships. Maybe that’s how you lost the last one. Nobody wants to hear you drone on about your ex and what she did or didn’t do. Concentrate on this new person, and see if you can get to the second date.
4. Don’t eat with your mouth open. It’s gross. Your date is there to see you, not your food.
5. Don’t bombard your date with extremely personal questions. Like you, they probably don’t want to reveal too much about themselves just yet. If you like each other and want to continue the relationship after this first meeting, there will be plenty of time to ask questions and delve deeper.
6. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. So he likes dogs, but you’re a cat person. Pretending otherwise will only make the other person feel deceived and turned off when they discover the truth. Find someone who wants you for you, not for who you’re pretending to be.
7. Don’t forget to thank the other person for the date. This is not only good manners but also gives you a chance to end it, if you’re not interested — or to ask them out on another date, if you are.
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Do you think Valentine’s Day is too commercial? Too sickly sweet? Are you single and lonely? Does it remind you of an ended relationship?
This year you too can celebrate your own Valentine’s Day holiday — Anti-Valentine’s Day!
While many of us have celebrated Anti-Valentine’s Day on our own in the past, card companies now recognize the day as well by creating Anti-Valentine’s Day cards that you can give to your friends. These cards, with sayings such as “broken hearts of the world united”, represent less than 1% of the 2500 Valentine’s card designs that American Greetings sells, but continues to grow. In fact, you can even send an Anti-Valentine’s Day ecard from the AmericanGreetings.com website!
If you’re looking for more ways to celebrate Anti-Valentine’s Day, here are a few ideas:
If you’re looking for more ways to celebrate Anti-Valentine’s Day, here are a few ideas:
* Throw a party! Invite all of your single friends over and live it up for the night!
* Go out anyway! Gather a group of friends and head out for dinner at a local restaurant.
* Have a funny night in! Get takeout from your favorite restaurant, rend a comedy that you haven’t seen yet, and spend the night laughing like crazy.
* Splurge on yourself! Give yourself your own Valentine’s Day gift — a day at the spa, a pedicure, a box of chocolates, etc.
* Join an online dating service and find yourself a new Valentine.
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The primary question I had while thinking about this blog post was, ‘Why some people get depressed and the others don’t?’ My previous post in a way partly answered to this question. As it appears some people have a gene, passed from generation to generation, which increases the chance of getting depressed. And I do believe it is true. Same as a gene of addictions in a way can influence you having a bigger chance to become alcoholic if you ever start drinking more often. How ever, obviously something is missing here. Even though the ones who have the gene have a higher chance to follow it, it not necessarily happens. The first factor which is necessary is obviously stimulus. You don’t become depressed just out of the blue and you don’t suddenly become alcoholic if till than you just had two glasses of Martini in the past five years. So we agree (?), that firstly something needs to call out the gene out of the bottle. Than it comes to depression then it is usually stress, a loss or disappointment. Than it comes to alcohol it is usually the same three factors and the increased amount of alcohol consumed.
But as I mentioned before, I do believe, it is two components necessary to call depression out, but before we overview the second one let’s briefly discuss what kind of depressions there are. I tried to look for the examples around me to illustrate all of these kinds, and considering that almost half of population is more or less depressed, it was not a problem to find them.
1. A normal depression (if a word ‘normal’ can be put with a word ‘depression’ at all) this depression occurs after a loss or a mental pain. A woman in her early thirties. A jewelery designer. Married very young. 11 years in marriage. No children. Than a divorce. Same month a loss of job. I do believe it is pretty hard to move back to your mother than you are 33 and to find out in few months that not only your ex-husband has a new girlfriend but she is even pregnant already. Not to get depressed in this kind of situation would mean you are not really a hommo sapiens. Just the thing with a normal depression is - that it passes. Nature puts everything back in order again and the clouds go away. It did take her half a year though, but it just passed. She has a new job, took a loan for a new apartment, started going out ‘hunting’ again. And I don’t think she is any near of being depressed. It was way too many wrong circumstances at the same time but now it’s over. Same as depression is.
The other two kinds of depression are called depressive disorders:
1. Unipolar depression. This kind of depression is classified as a depressive disorder and is different from bipolar depression by the fact that it does not involve mania. There is no strong distinguishing between a normal depression and a unipolar one as well. Unipolar depression is much closer to a normal one than to the bipolar. It is diagnosed and described exactly the same as the normal depression, negative change: in thought, mood, behavior and physical responses. The only difference I notice between the normal depression and a unipolar one is that unipolar one treated clinically. But this might not depend only on the fact that the case is worse than in normal depression but mostly on the fact whether a patient seeks for help or not. If the above mentioned friend of mine would had been seeking for clinical help I am absolutely sure they would have prescribed her medicine, etc. But she didn’t, so I gave her as example of the normal depression.
2. Bipolar depression. This kind of depression is also called a ‘manic depression’ so basically it consists of two parts: mania and depression. Mania is a psychological condition with a set of symptoms that look like the opposite of depression: euphoria out of sudden, frenetic talk and action and inflated self-esteem. This kind of depression is much more heritable than the other kind. This depression needs to be treated medically as it is an actual illness. It is pretty easy to recognize people having bipolar depression. If one day she comes to you and cries on your shoulder complaining about everything you could ever think of and it lasts for several week: she doesn’t eat, doesn’t want to get out of bed, to talk, to do whatever. You can see that she is drowned in self pity and you have no idea how you can help. But then, the other day she is just extremely happy. You come for a visit, expecting to see her all on the couch again but she opens the door with a cocktail dress and make up, runs around the flat cleaning and you can see that she was cooking like for 4 hours non stop as the amount of food on the table could feed half of Africa. She is happy. Not even happy - she is euphoric. And than these two conditions start changing each other out of sudden. However, medicine can control it.
Now we came to the second factor, which I do believe, influences why some people get depressed and the others don’t - it is pessimism. But to continue this let’s move to the next blog post
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We teach courses for medical practitioners (acupuncturists, physical therapists, nurses, and doctors) on non-verbal, or rather, mostly unconscious, communication. In our seminars, we talk about the stuff we’re always communicating but rarely saying.
I’m guessing that most of you are already pretty good communicators. You have a practice going, you get on well with others, you’re pretty socially comfortable. And I’m also going to postulate that, if I were to ask you what specifically made you a good communicator, you would explain to me in many words how you do it.
So what if I asked you to spend 5 minutes explaining how you establish communication with your patients, and you could use words for only 30 seconds of that 5 minutes. How would you do it? Beyond the words, you would basically just have movement and non-word sounds to use. You’d have to use meaningful movement, perhaps like a modern dance piece, or a silent film.
Don’t worry-we’re not going to ask you to do a mime show, or express yourself in movement. That would be redundant. Because, as it turns out, you’re already doing that, right here and now, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. You can’t not communicate. Your thoughts, your intentions, your joys, your sorrows-whatever is on your mind is also on your body, whether you are aware of it or not. Each one of us is an ongoing modern dance performance where, according to a preponderance of research, we are expressing only 7% of ourselves with our words. The other 93% is coming through our movement, facial expressions, vocal tone and pitch, and a bunch of other ancient and unconscious non-verbal cues. This according to famous research by UCLA Psychology Professor Albert Mehrabian.
So what does this all mean? Well, one thing it means is that we’re largely unconsciously expressing up to 93% of what we’re actually saying. If you’re running your practice, and your life, wholly dependent upon that remaining 7%, you’re missing out on a lot. If you’re doing well enough now consciously expressing only 7% of what you mean, just imagine how effective you could be if you could amp that up a bit.
In our classes, we intend to help make conscious for you some of that remaining 93%. And in the process, our experience is that the mastery of your communication can go a long way to dramatically improving your medical practice, and your life.
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